Over this past year, I’ve had heartfelt conversations with friends and family. Those conversations have helped me crystallize three of the biggest mistakes that human beings make when we turn loving relationships into competitions about who’s right and wrong. I’ve written a poem about this. It doesn’t rhyme, but I hope it makes you think as much as feel.

BECAUSE LOVE

Love does not calculate who does what for whom and when / because love is more than a ledger. / That’s the way love counts.

Love does not judge all things either good or bad / because love sees context. / That’s when love is no longer blind.

Love does not turn discussion into debate / because love has no need to win. / That’s when love wins.